Coming of Age, for tenth graders, is a journey with friends new and long-term, a way of exploring how Unitarian Universalism impacts and blesses our lives.

Are you considering the role of a Coming of Age Mentor at Follen this year? Here’s what you need to know!

Across religions and cultures people honor the transition from childhood to adulthood with study and ritual. For Unitarian Universalists a coming of age ceremony is usually the culmination of a process that involves the young person meeting with a mentor, studying the history of our liberal faith and, most importantly, creating a statement of beliefs to share with their congregation.

The Coming of Age (COA) Mentor is a trusted and respected adult member of our congregation, over age 25, who brings integrity, honesty, and ethical interaction to that process.

How Does One Become a Coming of Age Mentor?

All potential COA Mentors must apply for a role in the program. Participating youth will rank their top three choices among the applicants and will be assigned by the Coming of Age leadership team based on preferences and qualities best leading to group coherence that year. All applicants will be notified of the assignment outcome.

General Roles and Responsibilities

The COA Mentor guides their 10th Grade “Mentees” in thinking about their values and beliefs, while building a boundaried, positive, and healthy relationship. Follen’s COA Mentors will:

  • Comply with the congregation’s background check program (currently administered through Trusted Employees) and Safety Policies.
  • Attend a Mentor Info meeting in November, 2019.
  • Be available on May 31, 2020 to participate in and support their Mentee at the Coming of Age Service.
  • Participate in the COA gatherings, approximately once per month on a Sunday afternoon with their Mentee.
  • Meet with their Mentee a minimum of once per month outside of the Sunday COA gathering in a public place
  • Participate with their Mentee in one day-long COA retreat in the Fall, and one overnight retreat in February or March. (dates to be determined) • Support their Mentee as they write or develop their credo.
  • Be able to communicate via email.

Interested? Please complete the COA Mentor Application and return by email to Beryl Aschenberg, our DRE, by October 27, 2019.